Therapeutic Coach

Maximising Students Opportunities & Potential. Tailored interventions for students missing out on or struggling to stay in education, college/university, work placement or employment. The roadmap is to identify the plan, the action, the steps, the movement to undertake where you need to be, to reach your required destination, goal or achievement. Holistic approach, effectively de-escalating crisis and equipping students with the tools and skills for their mental wellbeing. Targets based around social and personal pathways.

Are you struggling or have gaps in specific areas, such as: confidence, self-esteem, stress, life balance, relationships, career, anger management? Do you seek solutions to move forward in a constructive way for successful outcomes? Comprehensive steps, roadmap to maximise opportunities, potential and fuel ambitions.

A year from now you’ll wish you had started today!

• Acknowledge that a change is needed.
• Show motivation and a positive mindset for your challenges ahead.
• Use positive self-talk and belief.
• Recognise and confirm your strengths.
• Clarify your vision and values.
• Plan ahead for your future.
• Visualise and confirm your success.
• Respond positively to feedback.
• Persevere, stay in control and focused.
• Reap your achievements and rewards.

• Know and understand yourself better.
• Overcome barriers and set-backs.
• Gain more confidence.
• Set and achieve your chosen goals.
• Personal satisfaction and achievements.

What do you need to do and achieve in the next 3 to 6 months? What do you need to do and achieve in the next year? What do you need to do and achieve in the next 2 to 3 years?

Do you need the tools and techniques to get ahead? Do you have a life coach or mentor and role model? Take big steps, call to action.

“I agree to coach/mentor you to the very best of my ability, to believe in you, to encourage you and to give you 100% of my energy and commitment.”

“Push yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.”

“You can never plan the future by the past.”

It is important that you have a good understanding of what may trigger your stress and anxiety. Then you’re in a better position to reduce, deal and even prevent it. It can be helpful to have some action plan or tasks you can undertake before or during an episode of a stressful or anxiety period. You may not always solve the issue but you can reduce, deal at certain times to make things more comfortable and manageable and to hopefully overcome – be prepared.

• If possible, remove yourself from the environment that you’re in and take some timeout. Even for just 10 to 15 minutes.
• A relaxation exercise to calm your nerves, just breathe in deeply for the count of 4, then breathe out slowly for the count of 5, lowering your shoulders as you do, repeat this process once or twice more or as you need, easy but effective.
• Stress balls are great for concentration, anxiety, blood pressure, arthritis. They can improve our mental health. Use stress balls at work, home and everywhere in between.
• Sit when opportunities allow with people you know, trust and understand.
• Sit in a room where you feel more relaxed, with space and if needed by a door or window for fresh air and for going out if needed.
• If you don’t feel like talking, then just listen and add to the conversation as you feel is right for you.
• Remove yourself away from things or people that may trigger the symptoms.
• Keep a diary or logbook, notes about the things that have worked well and when you have been able to reduce or overcome problems or issues. Building confidence and self-esteem can and will reduce issues. Refer to these notes as/when needed as a reminder to overcoming these obstacles.
• Take up a hobby or sport, try yoga, going to the gym or swimming or cycling to get away from everyday pressures and the strain. Or brisk walks for 15 to 30 minutes.
• Your health is paramount. Give yourself some regular self-time to relax and unwind and recharge. Include a good amount of regular sleeping time.
• Consider meditation or listening to soothing music at regular intervals to combat the stress.
• Avoid bottling up your feelings. Use self-talk, coaching or counselling.
• Turn negativity, or negative thoughts into positive steps, think and be positive.
• Drink plenty of water throughout the day [avoid being dehydrated].
• Keep with regular healthy and nutritious meals.
• Accept a compliment as you know you will have deserved it, you know you are great.
• When possible visit a place that you find therapeutic, stress-free, where you can feel some calm, where you can relax, unwind and have some quality time.
• Keeping a diary or logbook will help focus on clues for any diagnoses.
• Talking about the triggers will assist in preventing such stress.
• Connect with positive people and have a good supporting network.
• Accept what you can’t change.

Set-up a successful workshop with clients using the Oakleaf Enterprise, charity in Guildford, Surrey. Participants achieved learning skills, steps and techniques that can reduce, overcome and prevent stress. Participants given handouts, action plans and goals to implement. The atmosphere was relaxed, with participants sharing experiences and new friendships built within the group. These sessions provide much needed help to those suffering with mental health issues.

• Stress & Anxiety Management
• Meditation Sessions [Boosting Wellbeing]
• Head, Neck & Shoulder Massage [Relieves Stress & Tension]

• Stop Comparing Yourself To Others: One way to help build your confidence is to stop trying to compare yourself with others. The reality is that we generally only know a small percentage of how that person really is. Everyone thinks, feels, learns and sees things differently. You are the only person on this planet with your ability, it may not be with special human power that you possess, but the possibilities in you and the way you do things will be endless and different to everyone else. No two people's fingerprints are the same. When you compare yourself to other people you tend to compare yourself to the one person who you believe has it best in life, perhaps believing they have everything, perhaps someone you idolise or admire. This is definitely not a good way to assess yourself. Instead worry about what it takes to be someone that you like within yourself. Build upon your own strengths, skills, talent and further your prospects with what you really want to do and plan ahead to achieve, to be successful and to be the best you can be.
• Always Make Eye Contact: Many people are afraid of how other people will view or judge them in different situations. By making eye contact you tell yourself that you are worthy, unafraid and confident. You also send the message to other people that you are talking to. A little trick I find that works is to look between their eyebrows in the centre of their head, this is less intimidating for you as you are not looking directly into their eyes but from where they are standing it looks like you actually are. Just make sure you are not staring too hard and are not too up close and personal as this may intimidate the person you are conversing with. Many people have difficulties making good eye contact and maintaining it. However, you will find that once you get into the habit of making good eye contact you will naturally feel more confident and this will improve in all situations.
• Appearance can be a big factor and is a cause for low confidence & self-esteem. Improving your physical appearance can do wonders for your confidence. Exercising often is the best way to make yourself feel better and look better. Exercise of any kind enhances that feel-good factor, mood and sends a pleasurable feeling through your body. Exercising on a regular basis will improve anyone's physical appearance and subsequently their self-confidence. If you feel good, you smile more, you smile more you feel more confident. There is a pattern here emerging. Also drink plenty of fluids, [avoid being dehydrated]. It is a good idea to drink a bottle of water [500 ML] when you get up in the morning and have several more drinks of water at regular times throughout the day and as you need it to maintain hydration. Furthermore, eating healthy, monitoring your food intake and implementing an exercise routine that you are happy with and enjoy will work wonders, but make sure it is a routine you enjoy otherwise your fitness regime will be short-lived and you will see little or no improvement.
• Dress Sharp: Dressing sharp is an easy and immediate way to increase confidence. Dress sensibly for the occasion. For example, if you are going for a job interview you want to feel comfortable in what you are wearing while giving out positive signals that you have thought about your appearance and you value yourself and the job you seek. A smart appearance shows that you have good standards and care about your personal hygiene and personal appearance [first impressions can be very important] and we rarely get a second chance to make that first impression. Furthermore, this can result in positive physiological effects resulting in improved interactions with other people. This in turn will enhance your level of comfort in everyday situations. This will make you feel better about yourself and confidence levels will be raised.
• Compliment Others Often: Get into the mindset of thinking positive. This will allow you to see the good in people and compliment them in things that they do well and praise their strong points. So you ask, how is that going to help boost your confidence, self-esteem? Well when you compliment others you are many times more likely to get a sincere compliment in return. This will then boost your confidence. This will reinforce your strong points and push your positive characteristics to the forefront of your self-assurance. Of course don’t overdo it and make sure they deserve that compliment you give them.
• Finding the time to provide assistance, support or help to someone less fortunate should be very rewarding. Helping those less fortunate is one of the most empowering feelings in the world. Those who do community work and provide a support service to the public often have incredibly high confidence and self-esteem and have a positive outlook on life. The empowering feeling of helping others builds self-confidence in yourself, the feel-good factor and helps you realise that you are able to make a positive impact in the community and beyond and giving you great satisfaction.
• Having a fear is a massive reason for why many of us have low confidence. Fears that we may have can impact and take control over how we are feeling about ourselves and can affect our life. When we feel anxious, worried or fear something we can feel weak, we may not be in control and perhaps unable to cope. In order to overcome fear, we need to face up to the fears. Do not avoid the things that you are afraid of. Learn to understand the cause and fear of the problem you are facing, instead of running from it. Learn to never fear failure. Everyone in life fails in something from time to time. A few failures will not define your life. The way you respond to these fears or failure is what defines you and can make you much stronger.
• Carry Confidence With You: Work on being confident and carry it with you in all that you do. For example, speak clearly and with a reasonable volume. Give good eye contact. Be conscious of your posture. Don’t cross your arms as this can show insecurity. Use your hands to explain things, this can help to draw your crowd a vivid picture of your explanations, [make sure you do this in a controlled way]. Key is to maintain a positive attitude, outlook and approach. To believe in yourself and be willing to make changes to better your situation. Self-confidence can be learned, practised and mastered just like any other skill. Once this has been mastered, everything in your life can improve and change for the better.

Now ask yourself, are you implementing the steps and maintaining the skill?

Set-up a successful workshop with clients using the Oakleaf Enterprise, charity in Guildford, Surrey. Participants achieved learning skills, steps and techniques to become more confident and improve quality of life. Participants given handouts, action plans and goals to implement.

Do you need to build your confidence & self-esteem and improve your quality of life? If so, don’t delay get the support you need NOW. Call to Action.

Meditation Sessions [Boosting Wellbeing] [One-to-One or Group Sessions / Workshop]

“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.”

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”

“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.”

Scenery can be a beautiful picture and take your breath away. The process of planning and setting goals helps you choose where you want to go in your life. By knowing what you want to achieve, you know where to concentrate your efforts.

• It’s important to take your plan into your own hands and decide your direction.
• Assess where you are now.
• Identify your specific goals.
• Gather information that you need to progress.
• Decide on a strategy to how you will achieve, reach your desired destination.
• Develop a timescale to complete your tasks and goals.
• Write it down and keep records of your progress, updates with completed outcomes, achievements and celebrate success.
• From time to time we can all benefit from some coaching or mentoring. It may be that all that is needed is a few sessions to mull over our thought process and to find some peace of mind, some clarity for our decision making and for direction, to enable us to plan ahead for a smoother path forward as we progress through our life journey.

If you feel there is a need for extended or ongoing coaching/mentoring support, then in a planned and supportive way it will be there for you. Goal planning & setting goals, [one-to-one or group session/s]. Sessions will stretch your comfort zone. Give yourself some quality time, you know you deserve it. Remember you are unique, you are special and deserve to be the very best you can be.

Consider the above how you want your life to be, the things that you wish to do, what you want to achieve? Let today be a new start. Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Make the positive changes you may have thought about, but not yet begun, or feel stuck and not making headway. Can I be of help to you? To support you to unlock your talent and potential. Do you need the tools and the techniques to get ahead? Over many years I have coached clients to reach their objectives, desired outcomes and goals of all kinds. This has provided the tools for them to get ahead and enjoy more happiness, success, achievements and quality of life.

“I agree to coach/mentor you to the very best of my ability, to believe in you, to encourage you and to give you 100% of my energy and commitment.”

Wise saying/quote! “A goal is a dream with a date. It will remain as a dream unless powerful purposes combined with action planning to arrive at a predetermined place in time.”